The impact you have as a leader in the lives of other people will be determined by how you develop and use the power of attraction. As a business leader, you have an immense amount of power at your disposal to bring about positive change when you can harness this power.
What does the power of attraction look like?
Think of someone you know, like, and trust and ask yourself what makes you feel that way about them. As you list the actions, characteristics, and traits of the person you know, like, and trust, you are describing the very ingredients of the power of attraction.
Sometimes the power of attraction turns up in unexpected places. In 1993 a hunched-over, elderly, seemingly fragile, little woman was at the center of attention at the National Prayer Breakfast in Washington, D.C. Invited to address the world’s top leaders, her words were flavored with love and seasoned with truth. She was complimentary, challenging, and even a little critical.
But everyone, despite the criticism, was attuned to her carefully selected words. She had no personal possessions but commanded the resources of millions of dollars. She had no power other than what was willingly given to her. Her power was attractive because it was genuine and not manipulative. She only wanted the common good. This little woman was the leader of over 500 missions in 100 countries and a Nobel Peace Prize winner; her name was Mother Teresa.
The life demonstrated by Mother Teresa is a good working example of effective leadership using the power of attraction. It is not a manipulative façade by a charismatic personality nor should it be used for one’s own self-interest. In contrast, the effective leader uses the power of attraction to counterbalance the forces of apathy by avoiding the secure comfort zone of self-centeredness.
How should I implement the power of attraction in my business?
First off, I must admit that some people are born with a natural attractiveness, and other people really have to work at it. But regardless of your inheritance, you can develop the power of attraction. Through experience I have discovered that there are five absolutes that form the foundation for the power of attraction:
#1 – Focus On Others First
Effective leaders always deliver measurable results by developing the strengths of those around them. They demand the best from people by building on their strengths rather than focusing on their weaknesses. Always an encourager, his or her first consideration regarding a decision is how it will affect those involved.
Focusing on others first does not mean that you disregard your own best interest. Self-interest is always a vital part of the equation, but never first. The effective leader focuses on OTHERS first and, as a result, attracts buy-in, cooperation, and commitment!
#2 – Commitment and Resolve Are Consistently Attractive
A very important ingredient in the power of attraction is being goal-directed. People are not attracted to aimless drifters. None of us would be attracted to a person who had no idea of his or her direction, commitment, or resolve. You need clear direction, firm commitment, and resolve.
Others will see that resolve and be attracted to it.
An example of this as work was after I had finished
the leadership development work with my very first client back in 1979. He told me that he had decided to hire me to work with his company because he wanted just a touch of my passion for effective leadership. Passion, commitment, and resolve are key ingredients in the power of attraction, and those qualities come from being a sold-out, committed, goal-directed person.
#3 – A Positive Self-Image Is Worth More Than Gold
You cannot hide your true self-image, but you can improve it with positive self-talk. Every time I have a negative, fearful thought, I replace it with a positive affirmation. Over time, these affirmations build a more positive self-image, and a positive self-image is attractive. Everyone wants to associate with a person who is courageous, honest, compassionate, and encouraging.
Only a person with a positive self-image can possess such qualities.
#4 – You Must Be Aware Of and Attentive to How Other People See You
Your first impression is probably the most important, but your consistent impressions have a cumulative impact that either attract or repel. Though some say that how you look shouldn’t matter, the effective leader understands that good impressions enhance his or her favorable impressions. We live in a physical environment, and we attract or repel by the impressions we give.
With that said about physical impressions, I cannot leave this issue without mentioning the most unfavorable and negative impression you can make … the impression of pessimism. Pessimism repels faster than any other negative impression you can make. Pessimism says, “let’s keep everything like it is even if it doesn’t work,” “we tried that before,” and “it’s impossible.”
Does this sound familiar? Positive expectancy is attractive; pessimism is unattractive. You must adopt the language of positive expectancy if you desire the power of attraction.
#5 – Confidence Is the Most Attractive Impression You Can Make
Confidence always attracts positive outcomes. Since you build confidence from successful attempts, find a proven system and stick with it until you begin to experience successful attempts. Stop wasting negative energy on reinventing the wheel.
If you do not have a proven system, find someone with experience, and ask them to help you build one. Consistency within a proven system will beat creative brilliance 90% of the time.
Getting the Power of Attraction Into You
As we’ve learned, the foundation for the power of attraction is considering others first, being goal-directed, having a positive self-image, making good impressions, and developing confidence.
I have heard the quote, “Fake it until you make it,” but I resist the shallow message of that affirmation. The people you do business with will be able to tell if you genuinely have these attributes or if you are faking it. The power of attraction is most important in influencing others, and it should always be genuine.
Inspiring genuine growth and achievement in leaders, David Byrd has 30 years of experience working with top business executives and their organizations. He is a master of effective leadership and works closely with leaders worldwide to maximize their leadership potential. For more information about conquering apathy, the 4 personal powers, or help taking your business to the next level, visit http://www.authorsup.com/David-Byrd.